Why he is doing this?

Few years ago, so me and my boyfriend had an amazing relationship, loved and cared about each other so much, until he broke up with me for no legitimate reason and not in a mature matter, I was devastated but 2 weeks later he calls crying for hours begging me to take him back, he realized he made a mistake as he says. 
I met up with me agreeing to talk but was not ready to rush into a second chance. So we started talking giving him a chance to prove to me that I should take him back.  
One night it slipped and I told him that I slept with another guy while we were broken up.
He was furious and started crying...he was hurt. He broke my heart and it seemed like it didn't even phase him that he broke up with me in the first place, I was crying for days and I couldn't take it anymore so being stupid as I am I thought if I sleep with someone else it could help me get over him....bad idea**...

I was his first love and he said that he lost all feelings for me and he does not love me anymore after that incident. Although we weren't together, I don't understand how someone could easily fall out of love??. .....after that incident I find out that he is dating someone else, it hurts that he could look me in the eyes and say he does not love me anymore and the next day rush into another relationship....he is developing feelings and starting a new relationship which I believe is way worse than me having a one night thing that meant nothing and only did it out of the hurt he caused to me. I still love him and its like what he did in the first place was nothing compared to what I did and he flipped the cards on me to make me the bad one...but how could you be crying over someone one day and the next, say you don't love them anymore and be able to move on so fast?? I don't know what I should do about this and how to get over it! ??!! :(

Experiences

“I have all the love in the world to give but no one to give it to…”

I see a friend of mine posting things like this most of the time & i just want to sit her down & give her a good talking to. I use to post things like this so I know how she’s feeling; she feels lonely & wants to be loved.

 From my experience you cannot feel lonely & be wanting a relationship at the same time.  It’s just a recipe for disaster all in one. For example, say you do get a boyfriend & your feeling that way – your relationship will end because you’ll appear clingy. I have yet to meet a person who likes people who are clingy. Clingy people in a relationship do not work.

Before you get into a relationship you have to love yourself. How do you expect someone to love you if YOU can’t love yourself? You have to love all of you from your imperfections head to toe to your best feature. Confidence is key, be confident in yourself. Any person usually loves someone who loves themselves and is confident. I cannot emphasize that enough. I’m not perfect I don’t look like those females on the magazines and I love that about myself.
There are girls in high school thinking it’s the end of the world when they breakup with a boyfriend they’ve been with for less than 3 months. Um, no sweetheart your life isn’t over, your young and there are many more fish out in the sea. Yes, I know it’s a high school thing to be dramatic to some girls but get yourself a reality check. It’s part of the circle of life, it makes the world go round. Breakups make you a better & stronger person unless you have low self-esteem, then you bring out; 

 the ice cream, the chocolates, the sad songs, the chick flicks. Every relationship in your life you need to treat like an obstacle and see the breakup from both sides. It makes such a difference to do so.
Love yourself! Change up your hair, do something you want, do a mini spa day at home or at the salon. If you look good then you will feel good about yourself hence then bringing up your self-esteem. Do something positive that puts a smile on yourself. Don’t gossip or put someone down to bring yourself up to me that’s idiotic, foolish & moronic.  Do what I do, I love making people’s day by doing the simple thing. The night before I write a good morning message wishing them to have a good day, sometimes with a picture. I do this the night before I have my alarm set for 7am. When my alarm goes off I wake up send all those group messages and go back to bed for another hour lol. It makes my day when I make someones day.
I can sit here & type for hours about this topic but I think I’ll just leave it as that.. xoxo

Love Yourself!

I see many people saying they wish they had a man in their life & posting all these things like, “I need to stop thinking about you, because I know you’re not thinking about me.” or “I’m a fish out of water without you.”

These kind of things bug me because your saying you need a male figure in your life, you just need him there. You need a man to be happy, you need him to make you happy & in reality you don’t. You just think you do because you aren’t content with your life. 

In your mind in order to be happy you need him in your life; open your eyes & really think about it. It would be nice if he was in the picture but he’s not really needed. I used to be in an (on & off) relationship because I thought I needed him to make me happy. After a while I realized that wasn’t the case, I had my best friend (my mom), I had my brother & my family (friends). I had these things to make me happy but most of all myself.

You’ve seen this probably in quotes or posts that friends have made before or maybe your friends have told you. “If he wants to be with you, he will make it happen – no matter what the reason is.” < – - this is actually true, once again this topic was brought up in my life once or twice. Guess what? I was in that person’s life. He wanted me in his life & he made it happen but now ere separated.So, try not to expect anything from the one you love.

Simple as that, don’t push it because then you appear clingy. Love yourself! I’ve seen this happen in my life & others lives. Don’t go out looking for a relationship wherever that maybe, when your content with how things are going on in your life – the person will come to you when you least expect it, I wander. When you are at ease in your life then everything will fall into place.

I hope I’m getting my point across by saying, You don’t need a man in your life. Being a single person makes you stronger & independent human being. As long as you have people in your life that make you smile, I think that’s all better than nothing. if you ask me. Did you make the extra day worth it? I know I did, how you say? well, aside from the weather I’m on the chair writing this blog for you guys even though I have fever (high). I was thinking off back to reading and writing's . Well I hope you guys made the best out of this night. May you have a great day/night & enjoy the rest of your week! xoxo